Look My Way
❝What is it like being a female in the hardcore scene? It’s exhausting to constantly have your motives questioned. So much of hardcore is by men for men. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been physically pushed out of space, or how often I’ve been told what bands I can or cannot like because I’m female. The fact that anyone thinks they have a say in whether or not a woman has the right to be here is more infuriating than I can put into words. Women are involved in hardcore for the same reasons as every other human. Anyone who thinks women are here “for the wrong reasons” should take a step back and think about what men in hardcore are like. You don’t get into to hardcore because you’re a good looking, well-adjusted, and successful member of society. We’re all fucked up. You’re not a catch. Women are not flocking to hardcore shows to meet you. Or maybe that’s not you, maybe you are considerate and respectful. But your friends are shitheads. Call them out. Women have been a part of hardcore since day one. We’re here whether you like it or not. If you feel the need to disparage another person because their anatomy is different than yours, then you’re the one that doesn’t belong here. Every woman in hardcore deserves a gold medal for refusing to be pushed out by the bro mentality that hardcore should be safe from.